life is like the weather. here are some obvious things about the weather : it's real. you can't change it by wishing it away. if it's dark and rainy, it is dark and rainy and you can't alter it. it might be dark and rainy for two weeks in a row.
but it will be sunny one day. it isn't under one's control as to when the sun comes out, but it will come out. one day. life is as real as the weather. and equally not under one's control. not one's fault.